My Story

I grew up in an Asian household with parents from Hong Kong — emotionally shut down, sometimes explosive, but rarely open.
There were no conversations about how we felt. No space to talk about fears or confusion. Most things went unsaid — or came out as criticism and anger.
So I stayed quiet.

As a first-generation Australian-born Chinese man, I never quite knew where I fit.
Too Asian to fully belong in Western spaces. Too Western to be fully understood at home.
I was shy, anxious, and constantly measuring my worth by how well I could meet expectations — especially after my parents divorced in my teenage years.

On the outside, I looked like I had it together.
Inside, I didn’t feel good enough — no matter how hard I tried.

I pushed myself to succeed. To be impressive. To perform.
I built businesses. Got fit. Made money. Created routines.
I also sabotaged every goal that mattered, because deep down, I still believed I wasn’t worthy of love — unless I proved it.

To cope, I turned to everything that could help me feel “enough” — even for a moment.
Casual dating. Partying. Raves. Drugs. Vaping. SARMs. Surface-level self-improvement.
But nothing filled the void I had inside. I wasn’t chasing success — I was running from myself and how I truly felt underneath.

Everything began to unravel — and awaken — at once.
At 21, I was hit with a major business setback that shook my entire sense of identity and self-worth. Around the same time, I entered a relationship with my now partner, Achal — someone who reflected back to me the parts of myself I had been avoiding for years. Not long after, Sydney went into lock-down. The world slowed down, and for the first time in my life, so did I.
No more distractions. No external validation. Just me — face-to-face with everything I hadn’t yet healed.
And that stillness became the catalyst for everything that followed.

One night during the lock-down, I read The Power of Now.
And for the first time, I saw that the voice in my head — the one criticising, comparing, performing — wasn’t actually me.
It was a reflection of everything I hadn’t yet healed.
And it wasn’t until I paused and listened, that I started to realise how much of my life had been shaped by unprocessed pain.

From that point on, I committed to the work.
Not just reading books or setting goals — but real inner work.

Over the years that followed, I immersed myself in retreats, trainings, mentorships, and healing spaces — from psychological therapy to meditation, from mindset work to somatic therapy.
I became a retreat facilitator myself, and eventually stepped into my work as an independent Men’s Therapist & Coach.

But along the way, I noticed something.

🌀 Every Modality Had a Piece — But Not the Whole Picture

Through years of personal healing, professional training, and deep inner work, I immersed myself in every modality I could find — from therapy to meditation, from mindset to somatics. Each had powerful gifts to offer. But none of them addressed the full picture alone. That’s why I created a method that integrates the best of each — and fills in the gaps they often miss.

🧸 Inner Child Therapy

Helped me reconnect with the younger version of myself — the part of me that never felt seen or safe.
It gave me the tools to re-parent that inner child: to meet his pain with compassion, give him the love he never received, and begin building safety from within.
But on its own, it didn’t ask me to take full responsibility for how I was still showing up in my life. It helped me feel safe — but it didn’t show me how to move forward.
➡️ That’s where NLP and Parts Work brought structure and clarity.

🛡️ Parts Work

Helped me understand the different internal voices I’d been carrying — the critic, the avoider, the achiever, the pleaser.
It showed me that every part of me was trying to help — even if those strategies were no longer serving me.
It helped me shift behaviours at the root by building a relationship with these parts.
But it sometimes lacked the emphasis on self-responsibility — on calling myself forward with direction, not just compassion.
➡️ That’s where NLP gave me the accountability.

🧠 NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming)

Taught me how my internal beliefs shape my external results.
It gave me a powerful framework to shift perception, own my actions, and break out of unconscious loops.
But without emotional safety, it could feel like trying to fix myself without understanding why I was hurting.
The breakthroughs were often forceful — and without integration, they didn’t always last.
➡️ That’s where Inner Child Therapy, Parts Work, Meditation, and Somatic Therapy helped create the safety & integration that NLP was missing.

🪷 Meditation

Gave me access to a deeper awareness — a perspective beyond thought and emotion.
It helped me dis-identify from my mind, dissolve old karmic patterns, and reconnect to a sense of stillness I’d never felt before.
But without grounding, it became easy to bypass the human layers that still needed attention. I was observing my pain — but not always feeling it.
➡️ That’s where Somatics, Inner Child Therapy, and Parts Work helped bring that awareness down into my body, where real integration could happen.

🌿 Somatic Therapy

Reconnected me with my body — where years of suppressed emotion and survival energy had been stored.
It helped me feel again, regulate my nervous system, and develop a relationship with my physical self.
But it didn’t address the mental beliefs or inner narratives that kept recreating those emotional states.
➡️ That’s where NLP, Meditation, and Parts Work helped rewire my mindset and create lasting change.

🔁 Why I Combine Them

That’s why I don’t rely on just one method.

Instead, I’ve spent years combining and refining the best of these tools into an integrated approach — one that works across mind, body, and spirit.
A method that doesn’t just soothe your nervous system or shift your mindset,
but brings your entire being into alignment —
so you can truly heal at the root, not just manage the symptoms.

🔍 What Was Missing — And Why I Stepped Forward

As I moved deeper into this work, I began to notice something else.
While the tools were powerful, the spaces they lived in often weren’t built for people like me.

There was almost no representation of Asian or South Asian men in the personal development or healing world — and even less understanding of the specific pressures, patterns, and pain we carry.

No one was talking about:

• The impact of being raised in silence — where emotions were suppressed, not explored.

• The weight of family expectations — to succeed, to provide, to never bring shame.

• The internal tug-of-war of being first-generation — navigating two cultures but feeling like you don’t fully belong to either.

• The identity loss and internalised racism many of us experienced growing up.

• Or the lingering effects of colonisation — how we were taught to stay small, to stay silent, to never question or express ourselves.

Most healing spaces weren’t built with that in mind.
They didn’t speak to our shame. Our silence. Our struggle to be fully seen — even by ourselves.

That’s when I knew I had to create what I couldn't find:
A space for Asian & South Asian men to do this work in a way that respects our cultural context, honours our lived experience, and helps us evolve — not in spite of where we come from, but because of it.

🌱 Today, My Work Is My Purpose

Today, I help Asian & South Asian men break free from low self-worth, perfectionism, shame, and the pressure to perform — and finally feel confident not because they’ve ticked every box,
but because they’ve learned to live life on their own terms.

I’m not here to tell you who to be.
I’m here to help you remember who you are —
before the world told you who you had to be to feel enough.

If You See Yourself in This...

If any part of this story reflects yours — I see you.
You don’t have to do this alone.
This work changed my life. I’d be honoured to walk beside you as it transforms yours too.